Wedding Officiant

2 years later...still not over my Ex?
some days are better than others. like right now for instance, not a good day. Was with my ex for a total of 7 yrs...engaged the last year of it. After on again off again (mistakes he made on his end= betrayal) He came back full throttle to commit on a serious level- so much so that he would drive 365 miles to visit me for 5 months straight just to spend 2 days with me in his quest to win me back. He eventually apologized to my Mother & Father for his unfounded, immature behavior in how he had treated their daughter (me). He reasoned with them and explained he wanted to make me his wife. While we went to therapy- and i founded in my heart to forgive him, we tried to move on from his mistakes...in the past and all throughout the relationship. His goal was to put everything on the table in hopes that he could turn over a new slate and start fresh. After almost 11 months of this---positive behavior, he proposed to me and I lovingly and purely accepted. I waited almost 6 years for this...indeed it did happen. I agreed to move to another country (at the time he was working there also a citizen) and planned to immigrate while we planned a wedding. This is where is gets... really really sad. When I moved up there, everything was going well for the first 3 months- However, I did noticed he seemed on another page when it came to wedding plans (just seemed disinterested) and then he never wanted to discuss plans about our future (tangible plans-like baby, budget, house, etc.) I was always the one to initiate discussion. When it came to his only request which involved merging "legally" he mentioned a pre-nup... I should have known this was a red flag! As time moved closer to planning our wedding, I asked him countless times if he could help fill out the "couples questionnaire" for the wedding officiant... i asked so many times it ended up being a battle. then came wedding invites...his alternative to saving money on the wedding was to e-mail invites to 200 guests -the only suggestion he even gave. At this point-I noticed he seem disinterested and it really started to depress me. Then out he came with- we should cancel the wedding. He said were not getting along...and this is suppose to be the happiest part. (mind you-I have a ring on my finger, a venue booked, a dress bought, etc) he tells me this 8 months into the engagement. Then like clockwork-he seemed relieved and when I threatened to leave because of this... he cried and begged me not too. I listened to him and wanted so badly to believe his intentions were pure and he really wanted to work on "compromising." I stayed and waited and waited. And as I waited he expected me to bounce back back as quickly as him- (not so much) In fact, I started to resent him. I felt as if he was making excuses- then I started to pull away and then he did. Then I would try to move closer-then he would pull away. Eventually- He called me to tell me he was sleeping over a friends house and was planning on drinking. I advised him to be safe and not to drive. Funny thing is- next morning he came home and looked...well like his conscience was eating at him. The moment I felt this(i have felt this before) I asked him if he did something that I need to know. He looked me dead in the eye and proceed to say NO then kiss me. Afterward hopped in the shower and seem "in another world." That very same day we were suppose to drive to the border and finalize my immigration papers. Before we left- he told me that he was with another girl the night before. Here I am- a state of complete numbness while I am hearing this. It was like deja vu all over again, After a 6 hour walk by myself- I told him I was leaving him and proceeded to say "Thanks this just confirmed everything" As I left a week later- I left my hopes, my dreams, and everything I wanted to build for the last 7 years. He took all of that away from me. A year way from him- he still contacted me told me he missed my friendship. Year 2 was actually harder-the shock value wore off and reality set in. I actually ended up missing him more than ever. We spoke briefly during this time and I once again fell into the ridiculous trap of getting my heart broken all over again- as he told me that his work will send him to the Czech Republic- my heart cringed and again-despair came over me. I politely asked him to end communication with me as it effected me way too much-as I still had love for him. He just recently contacted me in September- wishing me well. I can't understand this person-? Even when I am not with him- I still am deeply enveloped. I miss what we had- I miss the fun- the adventure- our commonalities. I had never in my life time been in love with someone as much as i was with him. Now we are just strangers- Why does this pain heart so bad....... Why? And is he thinking of me the same as i think of him?

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Wedding receptions and liquor??!?
My mom is paying for everything pretty much and we ran into a friend of a friend who is offering her house as a venue. Let me mention that this house is gorgeous and it will be held outside. My mom doesn't have a lot of money to spend on this wedding and this friend of hers is offering to do everything for very cheap. Decorations, food, wedding officiant, flowers, tables, tents... you get the point. I told my fiance about this and we were thrilled. There is one thing though, they will not serve liquor or any kind of alcohol at the reception due to many risks like someone leaving with a DUI and the can possibly get sued. I understand this but my fiance seems to think that everyone in his family and our friends will be disappointed in a wedding that doesn't have an alcohol. Does anyone have any ideas so that we can have a wedding ceremony and small reception without alcohol and another fun thing to do afterward with alcohol? I had an idea that we could just go out after the reception since it won't be very late. Just need some help please!! Thanks! :) -Stressful Bride

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Jewish Wedding Officiants in Nova Scotia?
We're looking for a Justice of the Peace, All Seasons Officiant, Unitarian Lay Chaplain, or anyone who can legally perform interfaith marriages in Nova Scotia who is of Jewish heritage. I am a Secular Humanist (raised Catholic) and my groom is Jewish, but pretty secular. Rabbis do not do interfaith marriages, but it's really important to his side that the officiant is "Jewish" and my side is ok with that. We found someone great in Ottawa, but they can only officiant within Ontario. The Nova Scotia JPs are listed on the government website, but I can't make assumptions based on their names alone. Any help? Yes, some reform rabbis do perform interfaith marriages, but not many in Canada, and definitely none in Nova Scotia.

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