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Do I have to deal with my mom being upset that my brothers aren't in the wedding? (long)?
When I first got engaged, my fiance had picked out his groomsmen as his close friends who he wanted there to support him. I don't have that many close friends, so all my bridesmaids are cousins, my sister-in-law (who I was a bridesmaid for), and one college friend who I'm currently roommates with. My parents (especially my mom) were upset that my fiance didn't choose my two older brothers to be groomsmen. My family tends to be more family-focused, and they were used to having groomsmen/bridesmaids being siblings/cousins primarily. My fiance doesn't have any siblings or cousins his age, and in wedding-planning over all he's kind of been overwhelmed by my large family. So, he did not pick my brothers to be groomsmen, since they weren't close (we got engaged quickly, and my brothers were still in the over-protective "who is this person dating my little sister" stage), and I didn't really have extra girls to balance out the wedding party with, anyway. And I figured it's his decision, so it's fine, especially since he places some importance to who his groomsmen are, while I kind of figured I had to pick whoever's closest in the family to me. My parents (especially my mom) were kind of upset with me for not forcing the issue, and somehow forcing my fiance to be close with my brothers, which I found ridiculous and kind of upsetting that they expected me to manipulate him somehow. Nothing happened, my brothers aren't groomsmen, and that was eight months ago, so I assume my brothers either are other it, or never cared. (They are 24 and 31-years-old, the older one is married, and I'm really close to the younger one, since we were only a year apart in school.) Now, recently my parents (especially my mom) brought up that my brothers need to be ushers. (Originally, I kind of half-suggested that my brothers could be ushers, and my dad shot that done, saying it was insulting, which I agreed to....so that makes me think this is all my mom's new idea.) My mom's reasons why my brothers /have/ to be ushers is really so that they'll have to wear tuxes and look nice (they won't otherwise) and my older brother would look odd without a tux since his wife is going to be in a bridesmaid dress; my mom wants one of them to escort her down the aisle (in a tux), and also, we really could use ushers and they'd be in a good position at being able to spot who belongs on the bride's side. I got really upset when my mom brought this up, since I thought them being in the wedding was over and done with. It just feels very manipulative, since really she just wants them in tuxes. Also, she wants the request that they be ushers come from my fiance (for him to ask them). After getting really upset, I finally agreed that she could talk to my fiance to convince him he should ask my brothers to be ushers. My fiance and I are graduate students living away from home, so this fight with my parents happened over winter break. My mom didn't get a chance to talk to my fiance about my brothers being ushers, so I figured she would find a time to call him. When my fiance and I were traveling back to school, I broke down and told my fiance that my mom was going to try and convince him about this, since I hated how I felt like she was manipulating things. NOW, my parents sent me a package in the mail, and it contained a letter in which my mom "reminded" me to make my fiance contact my brothers about being ushers. Although I am, I /really/ don't want to be the middle man. I don't think I should tell my fiance to do something, when it's not something I want. It's what my mom wants, so she should have to talk him into it. It's like she conveniently forgot she agreed she would talk to him. I'm sorry it's a long story, but thank you for reading. Should I call my mom to tell her she has to talk to my fiance if that's what she wants, and risk sounding snippy? Or should I bite the bullet and beg my fiance to call my brothers so that my mom can have what she wants? Either way, I guess my brothers need to be ushers. All the groomsmen are from his side, and it would be nicer for my brothers to escort like my mom and grandmother. I just hate that my mom is using me to make things go her way.

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I want bridesmaid dresses that are the same color but different styles.?
I want bridesmaid dresses that are the same color but different styles. But I don't want boring like David's bridal, more pretty and vintage/modern. Does anyone know any web sites?

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Which prom dress? Can't decide!?
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Double V Neck White Empire Line Knee-length Bridesmaid Dresses 27129 US Size 12
7 Feb 2012 at 12:39pm

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